I am reading Greg McKeown’s book “Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less”. This is how he describes choice. “When we surrender our ability to choose, something or someone else will step in to choose for us.” I have told my children for years that “no choice” is a choice, the decision is made for you. Some choices are harder than others to make. I believe in the method this blog promotes, Listen.Think.Act. It is not enough to research something or listen to good advice. Eventually, we all have to act. Don’t let someone else make your choice for you today. Listen to people you trust and are credible in the area of the decision. Think about the pro’s and cons, in fact, write them down so you can visually see them. Give yourself time to process the information. Finally, act on your choice. Do not stay at this point any longer than is needed. Regrets often come from our lack of action. What choices will you make or will be made for you today?

Good to see you?

Are people really happy to see you or do they just say it to be nice? What do you bring to a relationship? I heard a joke a while back that says “Lock your best friend and your dog in the trunk of your car. When you get to your destination, open the trunk and see which of the two are happy to see you”. I realize this is ludicrous but the point is well taken. Dogs only want to love and be loved. They don’t have a hidden agenda. They just want your love, attention, and company. Look at a dog today. We can learn a lot about relationships from our favorite pets. Love and be loved.

Your Daughter’s First Date

“Love doesn’t make the world go ’round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”

― Shannon L. Alder

One of the great concerns for a Father is having his daughter meet the wrong guy; the other fear is his daughter had met the right guy. As a Dad, I want to protect my daughter from all danger, difficulties, and pain; I want her to be my little girl forever, always with her Daddy. This is not practical, so you can imagine the anxiety a Dad senses when his daughter approaches the dating age. A Dad doesn’t see his daughter dating, he sees her walking down the aisle in a church wedding; this can’t be prevented but needs to be put off to a distant future date. All this anxiety creates a tense and humorous environment for that unsuspecting male that just wants to take a girl to the movies. There are certain rules that need to be observed by all parties during this tumultuous event, tread lightly as you navigate these waters.

    Rules for your daughter:

First, this is a hard time for your Daddy, a hug and I love you will go a long way to calming his insecurities.

Second, dress conservative for this event, tight revealing clothes will cause blood pressures to increase; the one to be concerned about is your Dad’s.

Third, wait until after the date to talk about the wonder of this boy; no words will convince your Dad he isn’t a walking hormone factory, this will cause an increase in blood pressure which has been previously mentioned.

Rules for the boy dating your daughter:

First, the Dad will be scrutinizing your every move, gesture, tone, word, innuendo, etc… Be yourself, and keep the conversation light and polite; you will ease the tension of everyone involved.

Second, do not be late picking up my daughter; this shows a lot about your consideration for her and her time. Showing up late causes more tension, which in turn raises blood pressures, blah, blah, blah.

Third, show respect to the girl in the presence of her Daddy; failing to follow this rule might end the date before it ever begins.

Rules for the Dad:

First, this is a tense moment for your daughter, try your best to make this awkward situation pleasant for her; she will adore you at a whole new level.

Second, tell her date to take care of her; let him hear the words “She is special”, her date needs to hear those words.

Third, hug your daughter and trust her judgment; it will challenge you to make this bold move, but it will pay off when it really matters.

Watching your daughter go on her first date is a moment of reality for a Dad; your daughter is growing up and you will be supplanted one day by the boy of her dreams. Do not try to figure everything out all at once; this is a rite of passage as much for you as it is for your daughter. Handle the event with love, trust, and encouragement; you will not lose your little girl, you will forever capture her heart.

Hello friends!

Welcome to “You Might Say”. I have always been interested in civil discussions about life’s topics. I believe the pattern for success is often “Listen. Think. Act.” I hope we can have fun and still learn from each other. If we can listen, truly hear what others are saying this is a great beginning. The next step is to think. This will involve considering all ideas, even if we initially disagree. Finally, we must act. Discussions are great, ideas can have many turns before we work them out, but our final goal must be to use this new information to benefit others. My posts will not be arguments but discussions, and I will expect each person to be civil in their posts and to avoid attacking others. Respect each other and we will enjoy our discussions. I look forward to learning from each person on this blog. ~Duane

It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. – Aristotle