I am a quirky person. I know, strange way to start a post, but true none the less. I would like to submit the question to you: “Are you different”? If you are getting your first cup of coffee for the day, this might be a little heavier thought than you are ready to tackle. Give this thought some time before you read on. You might have thought of a follow-up question, “What am I comparing myself to with this question?” Ah, now we are off and running. I believe we have a desire for unique things in our life. Have you ever looked at a new product and thought, that is so cool? It might not be something you would need, it is just different than anything that is currently on the market. Here are three things I believe that will make you different in other people’s eyes.
- Spend time developing what you are good at.
Early school years were an exercise in frustration for this very reason. I was not the best at Math. It wasn’t that I couldn’t understand Math; at the time I had no desire to be a math prodigy. Are you pursuing things you are very good at doing? Are you developing skills that feed your passion? If you want to be unique, do not live someone else’s life. Spend time developing and sharing your gift. Your uniqueness will start to emerge slowly and deliberately.
- Be an orange in a basket of apples
This might sound strange, and it is, but I believe you get the mental picture I am trying to paint. Most of us like to get along and be part of a group. I recently read about an exercise that was done with a large group in an auditorium. The speaker gave the crowd a task. He told the group when I instruct you to begin, clap your hands every second and continue until I tell you to stop. Of course, it sounded like applause when the crowd first began, yet, a strange thing took place about 3 seconds into the exercise. Everyone started clapping in unison. It was not directed but happened without anyone’s coordination. It was a perfect exercise to demonstrate that people like to be in unison. Are you clapping at the same pace as those around you? It is quite possible you are squelching your uniqueness for the sake of conformity. This is what Steve Jobs said about this subject: “Here’s to the crazy ones.
The round pegs in the square holes.
The ones who see things differently.
They’re not fond of rules.
And they have no respect for the status quo.
You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them.
About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them.
Because they change things.
They push the human race forward.
While some see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.
Because the people who are crazy enough to think
they can change the world, are the ones who do.”
- Be different for a purpose, not to just be different.
Finally, don’t be different just to be different. Some will make a spectacle of themselves just to be noticed. Be different because you are that way, but be genuine in your difference. The Doors, a group from the 1960’s had a hit song titled “People are strange”. No truer words have been penned in a song. You are different than those around you. This is the gift we have as humans. Always seek improvement as a person, but do not lose that difference, that uniqueness that is “You”. Am I different? Yes, I am, and so are you. This is the gift that has been given to us. What we do with that gift is entirely up to us.